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Getting over my addictions (religion, drink & drugs)

By Irish Mark ~

I find that one of the best ways for me to go on in life, is to help others get over their struggles.

Back in May 2012 I wrote an article called “Growing in strength as an ex believer." Its now been nearly 3 years and I just want to reach out to those who hurt and give them a story so that they may not have to go through the pain I went through.

Getting over Christianity has been one of the hardest things I've had to accomplish in my short life. It's on par with being abused as a child as the two go hand in hand. I'm now nearly 26 and when I left Christianity I left it with such an anger that I was driven to drink and drugs. I'm now 20 months clean off both drink and drugs and currently attend AA and NA meetings.

When I was trying to get over religion I remember I used to listen to christian music and cry in reminiscence of days gone by.

For me religion was my first addiction and just to clarify one thing in AA and NA they speak of a higher power, however that higher power does not have to be God. For me my higher power is my cousin, he died from drink and drugs. I know that he is there looking out for me and he does not want me to go though the pain he went through.

Yes my first addiction was religion, if you read my older article you will see how I talked about my experience with Christianity (It was my everything). I left Christianity without anyone to guide me in a good direction. Thus the direction I took was to escape from all that pain. If anyone out there has left Christianity and feels so obsessed and full of rage try not to drink or take drugs, they will just take over

I believe that when you make your whole life about Christianity, then without it you are nothing.

That is NOT true. You are a human being. You have a story to tell and by sharing that story you can give people a reason to not become obsessed with religion.

Getting over Christianity has been one of the hardest things I've had to accomplish in my short life.
You can give people an alternative, find what you enjoy and do it! Find people you get on with and get on with them! Make friends, normal friends, you don't have to drink like I did, you don't have to take drugs like i did, all you have to do is to be yourself. I have more real friends now than I did as a christian

Humans are not perfect, you will not get on with everyone, but we don't need to reflect our anger, pain and fear onto the world. I have people I can count on today and they are more dependable than any christian was ever to me. They are kind to me, not because of a god, but because they want to.

Christianity, Drink, Drugs for me they were all about trying to fit in and in the end they took over and became my identity and it was not a very nice identity. Its so easy to become obsessed with something in this world. But I know that if i fail at something its not because of some Gods plan, its just not meant to be. What will be, will be. What is not to be, wont be. God or Jesus didn't say that, I did!

Whoever you are, whatever your story is, know that your alive because your meant to be alive.

And my purpose in life is not to suffer, your purpose in life is not to suffer, its to live.

Enjoy the company of other people, movies, TV shows, books, food whatever your interest is.

And the most important thing is company, Its taken me 3 years to find good friends, but good things come to those who wait. Peace out!


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