I've known my relative and his family for over 25 years now. I decided to share something with him in an email:
"I woke up at 5 a.m. with a very peaceful and comforting thought. I don't know if there's an actual Heaven or Hell (no one does), but it doesn't matter because after I'm dead. there won't be a 'me' to experience either one."
(You can imagine the responses to that.) Later on,
"This particular Carl you think you know, will be dead, and won't experience Hell, Heaven, Paradise, Reincarnation, or any other 'afterlives' ignorant men have created."Once again I was chided with his repetitive – over 25 years – interpretation of Pascal's Wager,
"If I'm wrong, I've lost nothing; if you're wrong, you've lost everything."
(WTF?). I told him,
“That's ridiculous.”
I knew all the good he'd done, so I couldn't think he wasted his life if he didn't bet on believing. You do not "choose" what to believe any more than you choose who you love or are attracted to.
"What you describe is gambling. Once again you're asking me to gamble and I'm not a gambler."