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Embracing a Lake of Fire

By Onesinging ~

To My Christian Friends and Family,

Just so there is no doubt in your mind, I am going to hell.

Entrance to Hell
Entrance to Hell (Photo credit: joeltelling)
Yes, I AM GOING TO HELL. I am no longer a Christian according to your definition, which means to you that I am going to hell.

Why am I being so crystal clear about it?

Because I care about you.

I know how horrible this must be for you, facing head on the reality of me subjected to eternal torment. Fire. The Devil heaping hate on me. Knowing pain and evil and misery worse than you could experience here on earth or wish on anyone – for ETERNITY.

If you love me, and I know you do, I understand that as you face this horrific reality, you must be devastated, grief stricken, anxious, depressed. Maybe you even feel like throwing up at the thought of your child, your friend - ME…experiencing the worst nightmare, torment, torture - FOREVER. I will never know God’s perfect love after I die. I will never be in your company again. I will never be able to escape the black, never-ending bottomless pit of HELL.

Because I care about you, I want to give you time before this happens to me to deal with this unimaginable emotional trauma. I want you to heal. To heal, you must first get past denial. Then you need to work through the rest of the stages of grief.

Because I care about you, I want to give you time to say your goodbyes to me and to work through with me anything that needs working through. Now is the time to say to each other what we need to say.

My wish for you is to spend the rest of your human life happy. Not paralyzed by the misery or suffering of knowing my eternal fate. I want you to have joy in this lifetime and not feel guilty, until you get to Heaven. When you get to Heaven, I know that God in his great and unconditional love for you will erase your knowledge of me, so you don’t have to think about the hell I am experiencing at the same time you are living in eternal peace and joy.

To help you while you are still on earth, though, I tried to find some support groups or resources to help you cope, to deal with this awful reality. I apologize that my search was unsuccessful. When I Googled for “loved one going to hell” only 4 pages of results came up, and only one talked about help for you. Unfortunately, that was a private site for chaplains.

Maybe I’m just not good at looking. Since there are so many of you that are grieving the loss of your loved ones going to hell, there just has to be support in your Good Book, and your churches, and in other books to help with your loss I trust you will find it.

If there is any way I can help you move through this difficult phase, please let me know. The only thing I can’t help with is changing my mind about following your religious beliefs. However, if it does help you at all, know that I’m not afraid, since I don’t believe in hell. So at least I will not suffer in this mortal life.

Love always,